About Me
I grew up in your typical suburban family in central Virginia, however, my experience was anything but typical. My earliest memories is that of a messy divorce which would lead to my fathers arrest to murder me and my sister, at least that is what my mother would tell me. It would take almost 2 decades to learn the truth and reconnect with my father’s family.
I was raised by a narcissistic mother and an antisocial stepfather who used coercion, isolation, and terror as tools of control. My childhood wasn’t built on safety or nurturing—it was shaped by walking on unexploding bombs, anticipating danger, and learning to silence myself to survive. The people who were supposed to protect me were the ones who caused the deepest wounds, leaving me to navigate a world where love felt conditional and safety felt impossible. Those experiences didn’t just leave scars; they shaped the way I saw myself, the way I connected with others, and the way I moved through life.
The sexual abuse and grooming first started when I was 4 by my mother who slowly turned me into her boyfriend. When my step father would come back from the military, I would be instantly discarded and made into the problem child. I adapted by shapeshifting and seeking breadcrumbs of love where I could find them.
All of which made me very vulnerable to outside predators. At the age of 13, I would be sexually exploited by someone I trusted, eventually leading me to be trafficked under everyone’s noses. When my parents and doctors found out no one asked if I was ok. Instead, I was ostracized, criticized and thought of as a monster. My mother and step-father would threaten me to an all boys military school for troubled youth and had me diagnosed for autism, though I was never autistic. All of the increase in medical and parental abuse only turned me to my abusers more for love and protection. In the end I was sexually abused dozens of times by my 18th birthday.
I entered adulthood not knowing who I was and a void that was all consuming. The flashbacks would come of nowhere, dissociation that would last for hours, OCD that would play thoughts on loop, eating disorders that were cripiling and above all was a pro at self abandoning. I longed for love but kept dating the same person but different faces which made me even more that something was wrong with me.
I finally met someone who I thought would change it all for me but the nice guy I first met slowly turned into Mr. Hide and I found myself reliving my childhood day after day. I gave up parts of myself to make it work to the point I was back at not knowing who I was looking at anymore. On the last time we broke up, I made a promise to me that I would never lose myself again in someone and that’s when I started waking up to my past and started taking back my life.
What I Do
I am not a therapist; however, I am a certified coach and hold a master’s degree in biology, with training in personality psychology, abnormal psychology, attachment theory, and sociology. I have spoken with leading experts in the field and frequently attend seminars hosted by the National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM) and have learned from Dr. Gabor Mate, Dr. Jana Fisher, Dr. Van Dr Kolk, Dr. Pat Ogden, and Dr. Richard Schwartz.
I help clients heal from trauma and narcissistic abuse by creating a safe, validating space where their experiences are truly understood. Using a blend of Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems (IFS), nervous system regulation, and attachment-based practices, I guide clients in identifying and transforming survival patterns and develop healthy relationships. Each session equips clients with practical tools they can use daily to build inner safety and resilience. My approach combines compassion, education, and evidence-based trauma modalities to help clients reconnect with their intuition, strengthen their boundaries, and rebuild self-trust.
